My daughters were angry

I do need a lot of support and I felt that my family needed it, too. I have two daughters. With daughters especially, this is a very sensitive issue. My oldest daughter was about 13 when I was first diagnosed with cancer, and she was very angry with me. It made it even harder for me to cope with because she was so angry at me. She didn't want to talk about it. She would say things that would kind of hurt us both. And then as I finished treatment, what finally came out is that she was afraid that this would happen to her. And I can't tell her that it won't. You know, that's the hard thing. I can't say well you don't need to worry about it. Now that I'm going through all this for a second time, my youngest daughter is 13, and so we're going through a very similar thing. She's angry, she doesn't like to talk about it. She's not particularly sympathetic. But we've tried to emphasize the positive and talk about the fact that so much research is going. And, it's been very difficult for my husband, but he's tremendously supportive.

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