It changes your priorities

It does change your life and I think it changes it in positive ways. You do start to prioritize. You start to get rid of some of the garbage in your life. If you don't want to do something, you learn to say no. You don't have to make excuses any more. You just put aside the things that aren't important and you concentrate on the things that are. In my case, it's my family and also myself. Doing things that I want to do, doing things that make me happy. I think women are infamous for always putting everybody else first, and I did that for a long time. And when I was diagnosed with cancer and I was going through chemotherapy, I thought, why am I still doing all the laundry? Why am I struggling up and down the stairs with these laundry baskets? Why am I still making the kids' lunches when they're old enough to do that themselves? So I started saying "Its time you guys took over some of these things." You start looking after yourself.

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