The future is more important

I think there's sort of a shattering moment when you get this news and don't quite believe it. In the first few days after the diagnosis, both of us were sort of looking around for who to blame this on. We've lived through some tough situations, but up 'till now, none of the plans have fallen that hard. The flip side of this sort of mutually collaborative relationship is that the threat to any one is very tough on the other. That's probably the case in any kind of a marriage relationship. So I found myself more concerned. "How could I ever cope in the future?" rather than "What should I have done earlier on to prevent this now?" I think we're both more concerned with the future. If we live another two months it will be our 50th wedding anniversary.

 © 1999 Michigan State University
Communication Technology Laboratory