I was more conscious of her needs

Probably one becomes more conscious of the need to be caring of the other at a time like this, than in the normal time. I think as you go through any kinds of surgery there's a period afterward in which you need some attention. Now, you can have nursing care of one kind or another, and I think in our experience I found myself doing things that a good nurse should do . . . a good nurse could do this better. But then a really trained person might not be around at the right time to do what needs to be done. The demands upon the spouse to be understanding and supportive are there, to a larger degree than I had anticipated.

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