Its hard to become number one

As women and mothers, we're brought up to be care-givers and not care-takers. And once you're diagnosed with cancer, you have to become a care-taker. I'm important, I'm number one now. I think really you become a little bit selfish, and that bothers me. I don't know, I haven't learned how to deal with that yet, being a number one rather than a number two. But, I want to see everything, I want to do everything that I've never done before. I want to travel. I want to go see plays. Things that weren't important to me before are very, very important now. I do thrift shopping and I love to thrift shop. I go do something like that and I'm uplifted because I find a bargain and that just puts me in heaven. And I look back and say, gee, I would like to be the Virginia I used to be, but I never will be.

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