Facing the fact
Don't expect enlightenment
A second chance
Managing pain was the key
She died at home
Her last day
I like talking about her
What I learned
As a rule, people with cancer don't become extraordinary, insightful, empowered people. We kept hoping somehow she would have this transformation and become a really enlightened person. It just doesn't happen. Programs like Bernie Siegel are really optimistic. It's great and I think they can be very inspiring. At the same time, I've learned never to try to hold someone with cancer up to those standards.